Are you a woman lawyer, law student, law professor, paralegal, or otherwise involved in the legal field? Has a man tried to explain the law to you, on the assumption that he must know more about it than you do simply by virtue of being a man? Please share your experiences here.
Run Tell That
Opposing counsel would call my boss every time I would not agree to one of his discovery requests. To his credit, my boss backed me up every time. I’m certain had I been a male, opposing counsel wouldn’t have acted so petty.
A male attorney recently offered me a “compliment”: that I have a slightly larger brain than the average female tiny brain.
I know what a comma does
A male attorney who was reviewing a response brief that I prepared stopped to explain to me the purpose of a comma. Yes. Dude. I understand that, combined with a conjunction, it can connect two sentences.
Shoulder rubs are(?) part of hearings
Was in court arguing a motion. While the judge was in chambers considering our arguments, opposing counsel walked up behind me, explained why I wouldn’t win, and proceeded to give me a shoulder massage.
He didn’t win the motion, but my shoulders were nice and loose foe the drive back to my office.
I’m not a real lawyer, because I work for my dad
I was in a mediation with an older male attorney who, after I went through my side of the case, looked at the judge and said, “this case obviously isn’t worth as much as she is asking, or [my boss/dad] wouldn’t have sent “his kid” down here to mediate it. Then looked at me and said, “Honey, why don’t you have your daddy call me when you get back to his office”
I’ve been a paralegal for four years. When I was assigned to a new case team, the partner in charge asked me if I know what a pleading is.
Whose badge is on your wall?
"Whose badge is on your wall? Is that your dad’s?" It’s mine. They give women badges for being prosecutors, just like men. What kind of person puts someone else’s badge on their wall?
I’m not an assistant
Opposing counsel asked a colleague in court if I was my colleague’s assistant. I was wearing a suit and drafting orders.
Yes, please spend 20 minutes explaining what an affirmative defense is
A man associate attempted to sit me down and provide a detailed explanation of affirmative defenses, complete with references to case law and his previous successes in striking affirmative defenses. I have 4 years of litigation experience in our field.